MYDEARSTUDENTS.IN SELF CONTROL – THE ROOT OF SUCCESS BHASKAR JYOTI BORAH                 Success in life is dependent upon m...

    Success in life is dependent upon many factors. It requires positive attitude, clear cut aim in life, chosen daily activities and above all creation of habits that will lead a person towards success. But if we analyze properly, even all the above mentioned requirements will fail to bring you the desired success if you do not possess ‘self control’. Self control is the root of success.

  Our mind has a tendency to wander. It is like a jumping monkey. It is needed to be controlled time and again and brought to be back to the work in hand. This capacity to bring back our mind again and again to the desired work or matter of attention, we can define as self control. People use to speak many things; they used to give promises and set new goals to achieve. But to fulfil all those they need to take actions. Many people start ventures to do something. But they cannot persist. And persistence can only be resorted to by people who are self controlled. Without self control you can’t stick to anything for a longer duration. If you do not remain in the battle, you can’t win it. Therefore self control is the root of all success.

  Once a research was conducted by a teacher on a group of children. The teacher called the children one by one to a room. He had given each of them a chocolate with a condition that he is going out from the room for a work for five minutes. If the children can wait for five minutes to eat the chocolate then he will give them another one. However the first chocolate will remain with them. It was a matter of tremendous self control for them. Many of the children could not even had the patience to wait for five minutes and had eaten the first chocolate. But there were some children who patiently waited, although in between they even thought of eating the chocolate, they motivated themselves that if they wait for another five minutes they will get another chocolate. The teacher used to come back after five minutes and gave them the second chocolate. It was seen that the children who could control themselves for that ‘five minutes’ become more successful in their lives than the other group who had eaten chocolate impatiently before the ‘five minutes’.

 To attain self control, you need to free yourself from all distractions. You cannot run after temporary pleasure and happiness if you want to achieve permanent success in life. This is the spirituality of success. We have to understand these laws of success properly because the violation of these laws will lead to disaster in our lives.

Unless and until we learn to seek pleasure in our devoted work, we can’t remain self controlled. We have to love our work, our profession to prosper. That is the reason that we must choose our aim in life very carefully. This is the only decision in life that makes our life meaningful. Our aim determines the quality of our life. To achieve our aim in life the most worthy weapon is Self-control. Self control to practice persistence. Self control to stick to your goal or aim in life. Self control to never give up and remain focused. Therefore it is only self control that leads yourself to your goal or aim in life.

Self control necessitates the following:

1.     Strict discipline in terms of a daily routine and principles:

Self control need to be practiced every day. To practice self control and to remain focused you need a daily routine. Whatever happens during the course of a day you must practice to withdraw yourself from any situation and put yourself sincerely to your work. This is the first and the foremost important lesson. Moreover along with your daily routine you also need to fix your principles that you need to follow to reach your goal. You also need to become flexible. Take break from the daily routine once a week or when any real urgency arises.

2.     Personal Integrity :

Personal Integrity means living up to your values and expectations. Following what you decide for yourself earnestly. Not changing your goals in the meetings of adversities. Sticking yourself to your goal with your principles is what is called personal integrity. It requires tremendous self control. Every day will bring new challenges to you. Challenges you will face in the form of distraction, in the form of negativity to change your goal and personal values. The most important challenge is in the form of self doubts. Doubts relating to your capacity to realize your goal. All these will time and again distract you from your true path. Therefore self control is the only potential weapon to remain focused to your goal.

3.     Renunciation of acts or pleasures contrary to your goal:

You must be able to sacrifice yourself to your goal. You must be able to give up voluntarily which is not important for you or which deviate you from reaching your goal. Renunciation of acts or pleasures contrary to your goal aids your personal integrity and boosts your self control.

4.     Controlling the palate:

Food controls our temperament. More spicy, hot and pungent food distracts our mind. You won’t be able to concentrate your mind for a longer duration steadily. You will become angry and frustrated easily. You will become victim of mood swing frequently. Let your values and virtues determine your mood and personality. Food therefore is an important component of self control. Choose your food wisely. Consult your dietician. Diet plays a very important role in our body and mind.

5.     Happy and content mind:

To develop your self control you must be able to maintain a happy and peaceful state of mind. Because a happy and a satisfied mind only can think properly. If you are always unhappy, you will become addicted to unhappiness. Addiction to unhappiness is a very deadly symptom. If nothing can satisfy you then there is a problem. Try to control yourself. Practice happiness. Practice love. Never feel unsecured. Rely on your daily routine and activities. Surrender yourself to your goal, to love, to happy and harmonious relationship. Practice singing a song, playing music or dancing with a tune. Happiness is found not at the end of the journey. It is experienced during a journey. Do not live in the future. Your desired future will automatically come to you, if you follow your daily routine and practices earnestly. Therefore be happy and content. Unhappiness will give rise to frustrations. Your mind will be out of your control. But when you are happy and satisfied, you are fulfilled. When you are fulfilled you can control yourself easily.

6.     Devotion to the work in hand:

Nothing is perhaps as important as devotion to the work in hand. It is only due to work that we all survive. Without work we can’t survive. It is work that elevates us. It is work that makes us realize our true potential. It is work that develops faith in us. It is work that makes us happy and free. No freedom can be enjoyed without work. Such is the beauty of work. It is work that determines our future. Therefore devotion to work is very essential for us. When we give our 100% to any work, we get 100% of the result. As we sow, so we reap. No meditation is required if we learn to engage ourselves in work with single minded devotion. But the only important thing is that you have to do what you love to do. Now-a-days there are many right people in the wrong profession. Ultimately they waste their life in frustration. They even do not have the courage to give up that profession for the sake of doing what they love. They feel unsecured. But the fact is that although financially you may prosper by engaging in a work that you do not love, but spiritually you will despair. Choose the work you love, make it your profession, devote yourself truly without bothering about the result. Your life will become meaningful.

7.     Living in the present without worry for the future:

Living in the present means making ourselves free from the unnecessary worries of the future. Worry of the future always obstructs our work. We are engaging ourselves in a work but we are doubtful regarding the outcome of the work. While working we are continuously thinking only about the result which we are going to achieve or realize somewhere in the future. In that case we are draining out our energy to focus on the work. We must have faith in ourselves and also faith in the work that we do. The work if properly done will give you the desired result. But without concentrating in the work we are worrying about the result. This hinders the process of self control. If you constantly worry about the future, you will not be able to control yourself. This is very very important to understand.

8.     Controlling anger and greed:

A greedy mind is a diseased mind. There may be short term accomplishment, but long term failure with a diseased mind. Control the greed. Be generous. As Mahatma Gandhi said, the whole world is not even enough for man’s greed. Greed when not gratified gives birth to anger. Anger when surmounts bring disaster. A greedy and angry person can’t have self control. Without self control man can’t become the maker of his destiny. 

9.      Unite yourself with your aim or mission in life:

Self control is not an end in itself. It is a means. It is a means to create your destiny. Without an aim or mission in life, controlling your self will be without any direction and purpose. Therefore unite yourself with an aim or mission. Have purpose in life. Exert self control and create your destiny.
Without self-control neither destiny can be created nor can self-confidence be developed. Self-control only ensures that you have the capability to work in the right direction. It is self-control that will allow you to follow your dreams and desires. Fixity of goals, bull like tenacity and determination to achieve your goals backed by self-control to focus on only your goals can invariably lead you to your destiny.



Inspiration for Students by My Dear Students: SELF CONTROL – THE ROOT OF SUCCESS
Inspiration for Students by My Dear Students
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