BHASKAR JYOTI BORAH Success comes out by sheer dint of one’s merit and not by anybody’s mercy. Success stories of su...
BHASKAR JYOTI BORAH
Success
comes out by sheer dint of one’s merit and not by anybody’s mercy. Success
stories of successful people reveal this fact. We can make ourselves successful
in our lives only by our conscious endeavour and not unconsciously and
unknowingly. Expecting others to help us to pull up from our position
without any movement by ourselves is a mere wish which will not bring any
accomplishment. The first and foremost step to create destiny is to take
action by oneself. The first attitude to be developed to create destiny
is to change oneself and not others. And the first lesson to create history is
to stand up for ourselves.
Each
and everyone of us are born with some unique qualities and talents. We possess
merits and also defects. Sometimes people with numerous merits also fail in
their life because of only one defect, i.e. not having the capacity to stand up for oneself. I have
seen people with double M.A. sitting at home without any work and job. People who were once very
meritorious student now have not achieved anything worthy to be praised. Therefore,only
merit, good career and many degrees are not qualifications for success. To succeed
into the level of our expectations we need something more within us. We need
more values, more virtues, more knowledge and information, more faith, more
confidence and courage and the first step to lead oneself is to stand up for
oneself.
PRACTICAL TIPS:
1. Failing to plan is
planning to fail:
You need to know for what you want to stand. You
need to know what you want to achieve and how do you want to achieve. If you do
not know, you can’t stand up for yourself. You may be successful to stand for
others but not for yourself. The reason is that there is no direction, purpose
and plan in your life.
2. Lift up yourself by
yourself:
It is only you, yourself that can uplift you. Faith
of other people on you will not bear any fruit unless and until you develop
faith in yourself to lift you up. Self should be rescued by the self without
seeking any external help. All the powers that you seek to uplift yourself is
within yourself. You can develop any quality that you want to cultivate within
you. It depends upon your will. If you ‘will’ to do something, no one can stop
you and if you don’t want to do something, no push can move you. Unless and
until you accept things and change yourself, nobody can change you and your
beliefs. Therefore lift yourself by yourself.
3. Do it now – utilizing the
present:
Decision once taken must be backed by action immediately.
It should not be delayed to bring into action in the indefinite future.
Procrastination never brings success. If you delay one day, your prosperity
will delay for one day. If you delay a month or a year, your prosperity or good
fortune will delay for a month or a year. Therefore if you want to excel rapid
growth, first decide what is good for yourself, what is your action plan and
without any delay execute it. Execute it ‘Now’ and not ‘Later’. It is ‘doing it
now’ that is the secret of ‘standing for oneself’. People who keep things
postponing never achieve anything. Therefore avoid the company of such type of
people too.
4. Take risks, bounce back
and never give up:
If you want to stand up by yourself, you need to
take risk. Without taking risks nothing worthy can be achieved. Freedom can be
realized only by achieving your goals. Goals can only be achieved by taking
necessary steps. Proper steps can be taken only be taking necessary and
calculated risks. When temporary failure comes, you have to bounce back. You
have to bounce back to all the negative circumstances. You cannot give up. If
you give up once, you have to start afresh. Again you have to start from ‘Zero’.
Therefore you have to develop sufficient courage to move forward in your life. If
you cannot back yourself with enough courage and confidence, you will lose your
destiny. You must prepare yourself to take risks.
5. Fight your fears and
doubts:
It is fear and doubts that pull us back. You are not
allowed to move forward by your own self doubts, beliefs and fears. To stand up
for yourselves, you need to change your negative attitudes. You need to fight your
fears and doubts and remove them by courage and faith. You need to rightly
select your goals therefore.
6. Self Reliance:
Don’t expect that somebody will do a work for you.
First decide wisely what you want; secondly prepare a plan to achieve what you
want; third ask help from mentors who has already achieved your goals; and
fourth ‘work yourself without relying on others’.
7. Seek motivation and
inspiration from within:
Study good literatures to find motivation and
inspiration for yourself to stand up for yourself. Now a day we used to seek motivation
from external sources to boost our spirit. But real motivation is not external.
Real motivation comes from within. Real motivation comes from your
understanding and realization. Real motivation comes from our value system and
integrity. Motivation in us should be constant to do something. It should not be
temporary. Therefore study good literatures on a daily basis that helps you to
lift yourself up and to stand up for yourself. Make the ideals chosen by you a part of your life and find your motivation from within
whenever you need it.
