1. Be true to yourself:
The first and the foremost
requirement to develop self-confidence is to be true to oneself. Be true to
oneself means that you keep your promises and the commitments you make to
yourself pertaining to your life. You can only be true to yourself if you know what
you want from your life. What you want to become? What is your aim in life?
Then only you will recognize the direction towards which you are moving in your
life. You cannot develop confidence without achievements. You need to increase
your achievements to develop self-confidence. Therefore work every single day
to achieve daily small success.
2. Be true to others:
Do not break other people’s faith on
you. I mean other people’s faith only in the positive aspects. When
you keep your promises made to other people, they will put more trust upon you.
Other people’s trust upon you is an indication that you are reliable and
trustworthy, which in turn will make you feel happy and increase your faith
upon you.
3. Have a clear cut goal or aim
in life:
How to remain true to yourself? What
direction should you follow? What will be the yardsticks? All these will be
determined by the aim that you decide for your life. The aim in life is the
only yardstick through which you can measure whether you are on the right track or
out of track. If you are on the right track and moving ahead per day, your
faith and confidence on yourself will be increased bit by bit every single day.
If you do not have an aim, it doesn’t
matter where you are and where you want to go. Do anything you like and your
life will become a disaster. You can’t be able develop your confidence without
developing your competence in a particular direction.
4. Have a daily routine:
How to assess your progress? You can
assess your progress by means of your daily
routine. Choose activities that if you practice every day will move you
nearer to your goal. Do not keep any contradictory activities that move you
away from your goal. Therefore you need to recognise your emotion and passion,
that which if you provide direction in your life will lead you to your
destination. REMEMBER - Your daily routine only will decide, whether you can
achieve your goal or not. Therefore choose your daily activities corresponding
to your life’s programme. No need to study hundreds of books. Study your
actions cautiously. Work performed in the right manner can free you from all
miseries. You are what you repeatedly do. The key to design your future is to
take control of the present moment and utilize it to achieve your goals.
5. Break your routine once a
week:
It is important that our daily
routine must be carried out because it leads to our goal. But while doing your
daily activities regularly without any break will make you slave of those
activities and then you will develop a mechanical tendency to follow or perform
those activities. So breaking the routine once or twice in a week is also as
important as following the routine. I am sharing with you only from my personal
experience. Rules are meant for our upliftment. But we must ourselves be free
from those rules. Rules or activities must not be allowed to rule us. If you
continue to maintain your routine for say one month or a year, then you will
not remain under your control and you will lose the freedom to decide. REMEMBER THIS. Initially our desire for
achievement becomes very strong and so we develop a tendency to work more.
Believe me, I am insisting here to make your life a spontaneous activity where
you must have scope to enjoy everything that you need to. You will realize
later on that positivity and negativity both are equally important in our life
for our survival. Evil exists to glorify the good. Problems exist to glorify the Hero.
Therefore, choose any day in the week
and break the routine. Break all the rules voluntarily. Enjoy the freedom from
the daily routine. Be FREE, Feel FREE. Allow only freedom and nothing else. Be
the king for that day and celebrate. While ending the day remember, tomorrow
you have to wake up with the routine. If you break the routine or activities
again and begin to celebrate, you will go away from your destiny. If you
persist breaking the routine, then remember you will never reach your goal or
aim in life. Conditions will control you, you will become slave to the
conditions and you will not have the power to control your Conditions. To become FREE you have to work incessantly.
6. Do not give up your beliefs
even for a single moment:
You can break your routine. You can
give up your practice for a day. But never give up your beliefs. Never give up
faith. The moment you give up faith, that moment will decide the end of your
destiny. Faith is the essence. So always stick to your principles and practices
in a bull like tenacity.
7. Journal your works and
progress daily:
Journaling or keeping
a diary is very important. Jot down your entire journey of the
day in the evening after your routine work is over. This is very important as
it is a reflection of the activities that you have done and you can also
contemplate upon it. Whatever you have done is right or wrong? Is there any
other effective way to get the things done? Can I introduce more innovation in
my work? These things need to be ponder upon and cogitate seriously. All these
should be written down properly so that whenever if you want to check your activities
you can find it out, where the mistakes are lying down!
Keeping a personal journal will put
you in control of your life. Many times we believe things happen to us and we
have no control or we just go through life without any thoughts of working
towards something. With a journal we get a clear insight into where we are
going and where we have come from, giving us an opportunity to change our path
if we don’t like what we experience.
8. Maintain
a self correction register:
Self correction is an essential tool
for self development. If there is no development of the self, there will no
development of faith. Therefore successful people are full of more confidence,
faith and happiness.
Do not confuse the Journal with the
self correction register. In the Journal you will note all your daily
activities and progress. But in the self-correction register you will only
record your faults. What mistakes you have committed during your course of
action that you have to write seriously. Why the mistakes have been committed?
What steps can you take to avoid these mistakes in future? These answers you
have to jot down in the Self-Correction Register.
9. Maintain personal integrity:
It is balance between your thoughts
and deeds. Whatever you decide for yourself and others put it earnestly into
action. It will give you tremendous peace and happiness and more
importantly make you confident.
10. Live in the present:
When you work, concentrate only on
your work. Live for the day only. Do not live in future. Future will take care of itself, if
you take care of the day. A day wisely spent will make your
life better, because many days put together constitute life. Therefore live the present moment wisely. Utilise
it to the fullest. Do not waste even a single minute. Minutes together make an
hour and hours together a day. REMEMBER THIS. Take care of the minutes, hours
will be taken care of automatically. Take care of the day, the months and the
years taken care of. Life will automatically taken proper care by you.
Therefore do not waste time in vain gossiping.
11. Devotion to work will
develop more faith and confidence:
It is only ‘work’ and the ‘way you
work’ that make a person free from all miseries. Our future is determined by
our work. When you are doing a work with full concentration and devotion, the
outcome is marvellous. Means to the work is very important then the result.
Result will automatically follow provided you have done justice to the work. It
is said, ‘as you sow, so you reap’. So when you devote yourself to the work
wholeheartedly, you are bound to get the desired result. When you get the
result as desired, it will develop faith in yourself.
12. Become Self-reliant:
Self reliance is the highest virtue.
Never depend upon others for the work that needs to be done by you. Put extra
effort. Do your duty by yourself. When you are asking others to do your duty,
you are relying upon others. When you rely on others, you become dependent on
them. If the nature of the work allows others to do the work, that is not a
matter of concern. What I am referring is what to be done by yourself only
should not be given to others. This will lead to procrastination, unnecessary
delay in the work, violation of promises, confusion, irritation, anger etc.
which is self-destructive.
13. Importance of Good Health
and Physical exercises:
Health is wealth. Health is the only
real wealth. There is nothing beyond it. You can enjoy this beautiful life only
if you maintain good health. Therefore to maintain your health in the proper
way, the role of diet, nutrition and physical exercises are of immense
importance. If you do not put physical exercises in your routine, believe me,
sooner or later disease will caught you. A diseased body cannot help you to develop faith and
confidence in yourself. I am not talking about a single aspect
of your life. I am accepting a holistic view of life. Success only in one
aspect of life never determines overall success. Therefore find out ways and
tactics to keep your body healthy. At least for one hour per day do physical
exercises or yoga. Stress your body on a regular basis so that it can handle
stress. Consult a Physical Instructor.
14. Importance of right food to
control your temperament:
Food controls our temperament. After
getting digested the subtle elements of food influence our mind and attitudes
and thoughts. Thoughts results in action; action creates habits; and habit
leads to destiny. Therefore destiny is your own creation. Hence, choose your
foods wisely. Do not take hot, pungent, spicy, non-vegetarian food frequently.
These food have a tendency to divert the concentration of mind.
Have proper knowledge of diet and
nutrition. Knowledge of ‘nature cure’ of diseases is also equally important to
cure simple diseases by household remedies without weakening the immune system.
15. Work more and Achieve more:
If you do not work for a day, your
development will remain stagnant for a day. If you procrastinate then you may
never reach your destiny. Therefore there is no other option to work. Work is a
means and an end in itself. It is work that makes you free. It is work that
gives freedom and liberation to the seekers. You cannot sit idle to develop faith and confidence. Therefore
work more and achieve more. Work continuously and incessantly.
16. Maximise your potential:
Recognize your abilities and maximise
your skill. If you want to excel in any field you have to remain updated.
Develop potentialities as per the requirement of your time and condition. Find
out every single possibility through which you can maximise your potential.
17. Jot down ideas:
Jot down any idea that comes to your
mind immediately. If you lose it, you may lose it forever. Therefore always
carry a small note book with you. Jot down any idea then and there, as soon as
it comes. Jot down any idea that can maximize your potential. It can be
virtually anything.
18. Be slow and steady in
introducing new things to yourself:
Slow and steady wins the race. To be
a Winner you need to work on a regular basis. Getting a job or other temporary
success never assures permanent success. In fact your real struggle begins
after that. Therefore never suddenly plunge into any action. Analyse the pros
and cons and then experiment it. After being thoroughly convinced introduce any
new things to yourself. Be always slow and steady relating to this matter.
19. Develop firm belief on
certain principles:
What you believe that only
you achieve. Be it positive or negative, you are
the outcome of your beliefs. Therefore decide your beliefs consciously. Deny
negative beliefs which are unconsciously occupying your mind. Take control of
your life by choosing your beliefs consciously. Follow
them till the end of your life. You are what you believe.
20. Never upset your balance of
mind:
Balance of mind is the state of mind
which is the objective of every philosophy. The mind best functions when it is
balanced. If the balance of mind becomes frequently disturbed by the various
states of mind and the consequent problems, the will power and determination of
a person will also be affected. A mind which is easily upset cannot dream of
big success. Therefore, patience and tolerance is of utmost importance in life.
One without patience and tolerance cannot have a calm and balanced mind.
Irritation, impatience, anger, short tempered people cannot think of a balanced
state of mind. Their success level also will remain stagnant.
21. Practice, Practice, Practice your
beliefs:
Whatever practices you decide for
yourself, practice those beliefs earnestly. Always strengthen your beliefs by
enriching it. By constant enquiry and self-study expand your beliefs and
continue your practices. In the beginning keep only very simple practices. Be
slow and steady. After acquiring and developing a belief successfully, choose
and acquire another. There is virtually nothing that you can't achieve by
practice.
22. Create good habits:
It is said that people can be best
judge by their habits. Good habits belong to the successful people. Bad habits
take us away from our destiny. Early rising, Study for one’s own self at least
for one hour daily, physical exercises, updating required skill and knowledge,
punctuality, discipline are certain very good habits acquired by successful
people. If you too acquire these habits of the successful people, you will
become successful in your life. Develop habits that carry you closer to your
goal.
23. Choose your Virtues:
Conduct is the root of prosperity.
Conduct is guided by virtues. Virtues are nurtured and shaped since childhood.
It can’t be developed and made a spontaneous practice in a day. It needs to be
cultivated. We are lacking many of the virtues which are an urgent requirement
in our daily life. Virtues are our real friend. They save us during emergencies
and danger. Where our kith and kin fail, there our virtues rescue us. Knowing
this fact try to develop and cultivate the virtues mostly required by you and
never give up the practice.
The Bhagavad Gita in its Sixteenth
Chapter list down the some important virtues:
Fearlessness;
Purification of one’s existence;
Self-control;
Simplicity;
Truthfulness;
Freedom from anger;
Tranquillity;
Gentleness;
Steady determination etc.
However cultivation of virtues also
requires clear understanding. The virtues must be developed in relation to the
affixed goal in life. The virtues must not take you away from your goal. If you
have developed earnestly and rightly, virtues will become your biggest friend.
You will become successful in any endeavour in your life. You will become a
great leader. People will run after you. And remember if you cannot obtain the
faith of other people, you cannot become successful in your life.
24. Do not believe in wrong
things:
Always act rationally. Never believe
things blindly. Analyse everything clearly and understand from your own
experience. Do not take into other people’s experience true to yourself
directly. In every case there is an exception. Therefore experiment, analyse
and then believe the facts. Do not believe in Superstitions. If you believe in superstitions then you can’t develop
confidence in yourself. Cut them out from the root.
25. Surrender to God:
You are not complete without
God. Surrender to Him what you cannot control. Be at peace. It is God who is
omnipotent and omniscient, all pervading. He is complete in all aspects. Pray
to Him fervently to guide you. Work as if it has been entrusted to you by God.
Give your 100% to your work. Give all your honesty and integrity to the work in
hand. Surrender the result of your work to God and be at peace. There are many
things in life which are beyond our control. We can’t control the outside world
except only our works. We can’t control the result but only our works.
Therefore we need to learn to be at ease by surrendering the result of our work
to God. What is due to us will come back to us. Take the whole responsibility
of the work upon yourself and let God determine the result of your works.
26. Never bow down to Challenges:
If you want to be self-confident do
not run away from a situation. Do not be escapist. Face any situation boldly.
Whenever any challenges arise we need to accept it as an opportunity to face
it. But remember it must be in terms of your goal. Do not engage in facing
challenges that diverts your direction. If you lose your track, you will be out
of your goal. Therefore here I want to ensure do not blindly face challenges to
test your confidence. Know the challenge. Understand it first. Than based upon
your own capacity jump into action. Never allow fear to take hold over you.
Face challenges and overcome your fear. REMEMBER on the other side of fear lies
VICTORY. All people do not have the guts to face fear. If you can face your
fears than definitely your future is bright.
27. Do not act contradictorily:
There should not be any unnecessary
hurry to reach your goal as early as possible. The moment will come
spontaneously when your daily routine and actions will lead to your goal. No
need to work very hard. Follow the rhythm that you want to maintain. Wait and
watch coolly. Inevitably success will come to you. Be innovative and introduce
it to reach your goal. But do not try new
things regularly. It may take you away from your goal. Do not be
hypocrite.
28. Seek a Mentor/Guru:
You need a real mentor in your life,
who can guide you always. The mentor is like the compass, and you are the
captain of the ship of your life. It is the compass that determines your
direction. Find a suitable mentor for yourself. A mentor is a person who has
actually achieved something that you want to achieve. Whenever you are in the
company of your mentor you will feel like that you have actually achieved your
goals. Your goals will become crystal clear to you and the determination and
confidence to achieve them will become more firm when you have a mentor with
you. REMEMBER upon the quality of the mentor depends the
probability of your success. Therefore choose your mentor
wisely. Choose the best.
