THE CHOICES

Conscious Choices can Create Destiny I mydearstudents.in

BHASKAR JYOTI BORAH

          We are the outcome of our choices that we make consciously or unconsciously in our lives. What we are today has been determined by our choices that we made in some part of our time in our lives. Each and every choice leads us to a particular route. If we live with a particular choice, we lead ourselves to a particular result. We can’t complain while receiving the result of our choices, rather we should become conscious while making the choices. We can’t blame God, conditions & circumstances and other people in our lives for our mistakes because we have the freedom to make conscious choices to create the future we desire. We should be bold enough to take responsibilities for our lives as well as to determine our choices.

          Arunima Sinha, who lost her leg after she was thrown out from a moving train has become the first amputee to climb Mount Everest. Arunima is a seven time Indian volley ball player and mountaineer. She was pushed away from a running train by some thieves when she repeatedly attempted to resist them while they were trying to steal her purse. After falling down from the moving train, another passing train crushed her left leg which forced the doctors to amputate below the knee to save her life. Even after facing such hardship she decided to climb the Mount Everest with an artificial leg. And she did it successfully. She proved to the world that it is the conscious choice that one makes for himself creates destiny. Her story narrates the triumph of will. Likewise we all are confronted with many obstacles to achieve our desired success in life. But the choice lies with us to choose the best and to overcome the worst. Nothing good can be achieved without struggle. If we want to get rid of struggle, we have to leave our lives. Therefore it is always better to strive for the best.

          Here I am going to explain about some areas where we must make our choices consciously to create a life we desire. We must make a list of our conscious choices and strive to stick to it at any cost if we want to become successful in our lives.

1.    We need to choose our Goals:

The first list of choices in our lives is the determination of goals. We can’t accomplish anything in our lives without setting goals. We must also categorize our goals to make our achievements bigger. Determining our Spiritual Goals, Financial Goals and Social Goals is very important. A person can’t prosper by achieving only the material or financial goals. Peace of mind and happiness will only come when a person also try to fix and achieve his spiritual and social goals.

Remember: Our goals may be numerous but they should not be contradictory to each other.

 

2.    We need to choose our principles:

We must find out those principles that will determine the personality that we choose ourselves to be. We must be very careful in observing these principles. We must never try to violate them. If we violate them we will be out of the track. Our identity and character will be spoiled. It is not simply enough to make the choices but to stick to it consciously at any cost. Failures will be there to obstruct us. Failures will frustrate us again and again. But we must always keep in mind about the result. Our choices will give us the result that we choose. We have to learn to stand up again and again to redirect ourselves to remain with our conscious choices. Therefore decide your principles now. Make a list of your choices of your principles consciously:

What are the principles that you will follow in your life?

What are the principles that better suits your personality?

What are the principles that make you happy?

What are the principles that make you feel better?

Remember: Our principles and our goals must be harmonious. Our principles must lead us to our goals and should not take us away from them.

3.    We need to prioritize our relationships:

Relationships which are good and healthy are very important for our existence. Make a list of the people who are very important in your life. Arrange them in a order of preference. Maintain healthy communication with them and let them know how you care about them and love them. If you don’t maintain regularity and continuity in the relationships, doubts and misunderstanding will crop up and eventually will destroy the relationship. Therefore it is always better to keep company of wise people. Know the people in your list properly; understand their mind and their heart. Gather information about their choices too to continue a healthy relationship with them.

Remember: Avoid people who obstruct your growth directly or indirectly until you succeed. Learn to say ‘no’ to people gracefully. Don’t make enemies. Learn to work with people.

4.    We need to choose our daily conscious activities:

 We are what we do repeatedly. When we do things repeatedly it becomes spontaneous. It becomes our habit, character and destiny. It means that if we carry out certain activities on a daily basis pertaining to our goals, we can make 'success' a spontaneous process. Our daily routine therefore is a vital tool for achieving enduring success in our lives. However daily routine to make a person successful in his life must be organized and arranged properly to ensure the desired outcome. If a person earnestly understands the importance of a daily routine and follow it in his daily life he will get everything that he wants from his life.

We need to choose our daily activities in terms of our goals. I have already written two blogs on this topic - one is “Direction is more important than speed” and “Success with the help of your daily routine.”

5.    We must practice Self control:

Practicing Self control is very important for us. We must restrict ourselves and our thoughts not to take us to the areas that may ruin our future. We must be extremely cautious about this fact. Sometimes emotions will come to distract us, sometimes ego, procrastinations, laziness, ignorance, frustrations and lot more. But we have to be vigilant. We can’t predict when our mind will drag us to take a different turn and take us away from our conscious choices. Self control is the root of success. Whenever any condition arises where your mind started to carry you against your goal, you have to control it ruthlessly. Never allow thoughts to distract you from achieving your goal and to remain with your choices.

6.    We must be ready to sacrifice our minor interests to achieve the greater one:

Choices are unlimited. We can’t choose the infinite as we may end in achieving none. Therefore we need to focus our mental and physical energy to some specific choices. If we don’t make a choice and achieve what we want, we can’t repent for any loss. Sometimes some artificial urgency to choose something different may arise due to the emergence of certain conditions. But we have to hold us tight. We can’t let us loose to choose something instantly and run after them. We must prioritize our goals and achieve them in the order of our preference. In that sense we sometimes, have to sacrifice some minor interests to achieve our chosen goals. Sometimes we need to practice patience and tolerance to sacrifice temporarily and affix new goals and to achieve them permanently.

Remember: Stay Focussed. Be Specific in terms of your goals. Make them crystal clear. Don’t allow other interests and goals to distract you unless you achieve your chosen goals in the order of preference. Take time to think, analyze your goals and their importance in your life while choosing them and arranging the preferences.

Accordingly don’t change your principles and relationships. If any principle is obstructing to achieve your goals then you can think about reviewing them. Therefore choose your goals wisely.

Create a Life of your choice:

The power of our conscious choices has the potentialities to create destiny. We can only create the life we desire by our conscious choices and not by unconscious submissions to the conditions. However to make our conscious choices to create our destinies we have to pay the price. We must learn to sacrifice those which are not our choices if they confronts us.

We have to check ourselves continuously on a daily basis:

Whether we are living a life with right attitude?

Whether we are determined to achieve our goals?

Do we have sufficient courage to stick to our choices?

Do we suffer from lack of will and determination?

Whether we maintain our personal integrity?

Whether we have maintained purity of our purpose and action?

Whether the choices that we have made will help us to create the life we desire?

Life gives us infinite options. We will become directionless in our lives if we become motivated by everything we come across. Therefore we must learn to make conscious choices and stick to it. Then our intelligence will be fixed. We have to choose our options consciously to create a life that we desire. The choices will be there for us always. We at any moment of time may give up our determined choices due to obstacles, frustrations, lack of determination, lack of will and courage, procrastinations, laziness etc. If we give up our choices, we will fail miserably. We will not be able to live a fulfilled life of happiness, joy and prosperity. Therefore we need to make our choices consciously and live with it.