Conscious Choices can Create Destiny I mydearstudents.in
BHASKAR JYOTI BORAH
We are the outcome of our choices that
we make consciously or unconsciously in our lives. What we are today has been
determined by our choices that we made in some part of our time in our lives.
Each and every choice leads us to a particular route. If we live with a
particular choice, we lead ourselves to a particular result. We can’t complain
while receiving the result of our choices, rather we should become conscious
while making the choices. We can’t blame God, conditions &
circumstances and other people in our lives for our mistakes because we have
the freedom to make conscious choices to create the future we desire. We should
be bold enough to take responsibilities for our lives as well as to determine
our choices.
Arunima Sinha, who lost her leg after
she was thrown out from a moving train has become the first amputee to climb
Mount Everest. Arunima is a seven time Indian volley ball player and
mountaineer. She was pushed away from a running train by some thieves when she
repeatedly attempted to resist them while they were trying to steal her purse. After
falling down from the moving train, another passing train crushed her left leg
which forced the doctors to amputate below the knee to save her life. Even
after facing such hardship she decided to climb the Mount Everest with an
artificial leg. And she did it successfully. She proved to the world that it is
the conscious choice that one makes for himself creates destiny. Her story
narrates the triumph of will. Likewise we all are confronted with many
obstacles to achieve our desired success in life. But the choice lies with us
to choose the best and to overcome the worst. Nothing good can be achieved
without struggle. If we want to get rid of struggle, we have to leave our
lives. Therefore it is always better to strive for the best.
Here I am going to explain about some
areas where we must make our choices consciously to create a life we desire. We
must make a list of our conscious choices and strive to stick to it at any cost
if we want to become successful in our lives.
1.
We need to choose our
Goals:
The first list of choices in our lives is the
determination of goals. We can’t accomplish anything in our lives without
setting goals. We must also categorize our goals to make our achievements
bigger. Determining our Spiritual Goals, Financial Goals and Social Goals is
very important. A person can’t prosper by achieving only the material or
financial goals. Peace of mind and happiness will only come when a person also
try to fix and achieve his spiritual and social goals.
Remember:
Our
goals may be numerous but they should not be contradictory to each other.
2.
We need to choose our
principles:
We must find out those principles that will
determine the personality that we choose ourselves to be. We must be very
careful in observing these principles. We must never try to violate them. If we
violate them we will be out of the track. Our identity and character will be
spoiled. It is not simply enough to make the choices but to stick to it
consciously at any cost. Failures will be there to obstruct us. Failures will
frustrate us again and again. But we must always keep in mind about the result.
Our choices will give us the result that we choose. We have to learn to stand
up again and again to redirect ourselves to remain with our conscious choices.
Therefore decide your principles now. Make a list of your choices of your
principles consciously:
What are the principles that you will follow in your
life?
What are the principles that better suits your
personality?
What are the principles that make you happy?
What are the principles that make you feel better?
Remember:
Our principles and our goals must be harmonious. Our principles must lead us to
our goals and should not take us away from them.
3.
We need to prioritize our
relationships:
Relationships which are good and healthy are very
important for our existence. Make a list of the people who are very important
in your life. Arrange them in a order of preference. Maintain healthy
communication with them and let them know how you care about them and love
them. If you don’t maintain regularity and continuity in the relationships,
doubts and misunderstanding will crop up and eventually will destroy the
relationship. Therefore it is always better to keep company of wise people. Know
the people in your list properly; understand their mind and
their heart. Gather information about their choices too to continue a healthy
relationship with them.
Remember:
Avoid people who obstruct your growth directly or indirectly until you succeed.
Learn to say ‘no’ to people gracefully. Don’t make enemies. Learn to work with
people.
4.
We need to choose our
daily conscious activities:
We are what we do repeatedly. When
we do things repeatedly it becomes spontaneous. It becomes our habit, character
and destiny. It means that if we carry out certain activities on a daily basis
pertaining to our goals, we can make 'success' a spontaneous process. Our daily
routine therefore is a vital tool for achieving enduring success in our lives.
However daily routine to make a person successful in his life must be organized
and arranged properly to ensure the desired outcome. If a person earnestly
understands the importance of a daily routine and follow it in his daily life
he will get everything that he wants from his life.
We need to choose our daily activities in terms of
our goals. I have already written two blogs on this topic - one is “Direction
is more important than speed” and “Success
with the help of your daily routine.”
5.
We must practice Self
control:
Practicing Self control is very important for us. We
must restrict ourselves and our thoughts not to take us to the areas that may
ruin our future. We must be extremely cautious about this fact. Sometimes
emotions will come to distract us, sometimes ego, procrastinations, laziness,
ignorance, frustrations and lot more. But we have to be vigilant. We can’t
predict when our mind will drag us to take a different turn and take us away
from our conscious choices. Self
control is the root of success. Whenever any condition
arises where your mind started to carry you against your goal, you have to
control it ruthlessly. Never allow thoughts to distract you from achieving your
goal and to remain with your choices.
6.
We must be ready to
sacrifice our minor interests to achieve the greater one:
Choices are unlimited. We can’t choose the infinite
as we may end in achieving none. Therefore we need to focus our mental and
physical energy to some specific choices. If we don’t make a choice and achieve
what we want, we can’t repent for any loss. Sometimes some artificial urgency
to choose something different may arise due to the emergence of certain
conditions. But we have to hold us tight. We can’t let us loose to choose
something instantly and run after them. We must prioritize our goals and
achieve them in the order of our preference. In that sense we sometimes, have
to sacrifice some minor interests to achieve our chosen goals. Sometimes we
need to practice patience and tolerance to sacrifice temporarily and affix new
goals and to achieve them permanently.
Remember:
Stay Focussed. Be Specific in terms of your goals. Make them crystal clear. Don’t
allow other interests and goals to distract you unless you achieve your chosen
goals in the order of preference. Take time to think, analyze your goals and
their importance in your life while choosing them and arranging the
preferences.
Accordingly don’t change your principles and
relationships. If any principle is obstructing to achieve your goals then you
can think about reviewing them. Therefore choose your goals wisely.
Create a Life of your choice:
The power of our conscious choices has the
potentialities to create destiny. We can only create the life we desire by our
conscious choices and not by unconscious submissions to the conditions. However
to make our conscious choices to create our destinies we have to pay the price.
We must learn to sacrifice those which are not our choices if they confronts
us.
We have to check ourselves continuously on a daily
basis:
Whether we are living a life with right attitude?
Whether we are determined to achieve our goals?
Do we have sufficient courage to stick to our
choices?
Do we suffer from lack of will and determination?
Whether we maintain our personal integrity?
Whether we have maintained purity of our purpose and
action?
Whether the choices that we have made will help us
to create the life we desire?
Life
gives us infinite options. We will become directionless
in our lives if we become motivated by everything we come across. Therefore we must learn to make conscious choices and
stick to it. Then our intelligence will be fixed. We
have to choose our options consciously to create a life that we desire. The
choices will be there for us always. We at any moment of time may give up our determined
choices due to obstacles, frustrations, lack of determination, lack of will and
courage, procrastinations, laziness etc. If we give up our choices, we will
fail miserably. We will not be able to live a fulfilled life of happiness, joy
and prosperity. Therefore we need to make our choices consciously and live with
it.
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